Here's Part 2 of emotional triggers... and what to do about them!
I frequently talk about and teach my clients how to check in with themselves. I find it to be a critical part of helping them to understand, take back some control and alleviate their triggers. In this blog, I also talk about H.A.L.T. and my 4 extra conditions.
Hope you find it helpful:
In my last blog, I talked about emotional triggers and how they typically come from a few different sources. Now let’s find out how to work with them.
Thankfully, there are ways to combat emotional triggers.
The first step is to bring awareness. Notice when conditions exist that are within your control (hunger, stress, exhaustion, etc.,) and directly respond to them. Otherwise, you might be setting yourself up to have an overly emotional reaction, a.k.a. get triggered.
In Alcoholics Anonymous there’s an acronym for remembering those negative conditions, and it’s called, H.A.L.T. (Hungry, Angry, Lonely. Tired.) In the AA world, HALT reminds individuals that each of those physical or emotional conditions, if not taken care of, can leave them more vulnerable for a relapse.
Yet, I think those conditions, (plus a few extras I added on) are critical for everyone. If not addressed, they can have a negative influence on us and possibly result in causing an unexpected trigger.
Here are the 4 conditions I took the liberty of adding to HALT –Stressed, Overwhelmed, Surprised, and Not Feeling Well. Now, when referring to the AA acronym, I explain it as HALT+.
If you take a moment to check in with yourself and take your emotional temperature periodically during the day, you’ll notice more and more when these conditions exist. You will bring awareness to feeling stressed, overwhelmed, lonely, etc., Then, after you observe what’s going on, you can decide whether you need to do something about it, or not.
Checking in helps you to notice the conditions that exist and the intensity and irrational flavor of your reaction so you can then try to understand what's going on and how to handle it. You can also prevent unnecessary, intense interactions with others!!
By checking in and bringing awareness to your physical or emotional state, you are now taking control of how you respond to your environment. This is how you prevent or minimize the impact of emotional triggers.
If you can’t change the adverse condition, at least, you can note it to yourself, bring increased awareness and decide how to manage it.
Let’s go a little deeper - if you're able to self-reflect and recognize that a condition, situation or person is having (or had) a strong and perhaps unexpected negative impact on you –you’ve already accomplished something! You have injected space between the thought, the feeling, and your reaction. When your awareness increases, it helps you to slow down your automatic responses, take better care of your emotional needs, and it stops the piling-on of negative stressors and responses.
I hope this information takes the mystery out of those seemingly unexplainable and uncomfortable “out-of-control” emotional moments!
Emotional triggers are not random – they always stem from somewhere or something.
Once you understand them, you take their power away. I love that part!