What does a lack of commitment look like?

Let's take a brief look at Commitment.

As you may or may not know, I am all about Commitment!

Because... the number one requirement for all healthy relationships is Commitment.

It is mandatory, and when there’s no commitment or someone's behavior is inconsistent, there are many repercussions. The relationship will always have limitations, including, but not limited to:

- Lack of...

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You Can Control Your Emotional Triggers Today

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Here's Part 2 of emotional triggers... and what to do about them!

I frequently talk about and teach my clients how to check in with themselves. I find it to be a critical part of helping them to understand, take back some control and alleviate their triggers. In this blog, I also talk about H.A.L.T. and my 4 extra conditions. 

Hope you find it helpful:

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In my last blog, I...

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What Are Emotional Triggers?

I always found it difficult to explain emotional triggers in a simple way to my clients. Yet, recently I came up with a description that was well received and even helpful! I thought I'd share it with you. Here goes:

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When you notice that your immediate reaction to a person or situation is overly emotional or irrational, it usually means that something has been building up or is...

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There's good news about stress! Check it out now

Here's a nice piece of info to share with your clients. Our view of stress influences how we respond to it and ultimately, it can have a positive effect. Check it out...

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I've recently learned about the upside of stress from watching Kelly McGonigal's TedTalk. I found it interesting to look at stress from another lens – instead of seeing stress as bad, we need to make it our...

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State Your Intentions - Give them your "Why" upfront

This is important advice for you to your clients, students, employees... Teach them how to have the best outcome for every interaction, especially when it's an important conversation. 

Here it is: 

When you tell the other person what your goal (or your intention) is for an interaction, they are more likely to listen to you, rather than prepare to defend themselves or...

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This ONE easy step can change unhealthy behaviors

Most people believe that it takes an insurmountable effort to change negative behaviors. This blog talks about repetition and how new behaviors strengthen when they are repeated again and again.

It's our job as professionals to encourage the people we work with, our clients, our employees, and our students –that positive changes are possible, reachable and sustainable. I think this...

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Are you just "soldiering" on... doing what needs to be done?

This is a great blog to support your clients when they are understandably overwhelmed by their many responsibilities and they're not sure how to best cope. I suggest labeling this time period as "soldiering".

By giving it a name "soldiering", and sharing the 3-tips from the blog, you'll be normalizing this phase of their life and making the coping process more manageable.

This article also...

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Teaching Step #3: Don't be so focused on what you're saying that you ignore ME

When you're concentrating on making your point, defending yourself, winning an interaction, or being right, you're probably not noticing me (the other person). I might be getting upset, my feelings could be hurt, or maybe I'm bored or just tuned out.

Here’s a tip: Paying attention to me and my reactions are as important (if not more important) than whatever you are saying. It may not feel...

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Great imagery – Is your bucket filling up?

This is a great analogy to explain what happens when a person has little or no self-awareness. I use it all the time with my clients. The image of a bucket is a great visual. I've had many clients mention that they now notice when their bucket is filling up:) I love when that happens! Check it out. 

This blog is also on the RP website. 

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Try to picture a big bucket that someone...

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Quick Tip: What to do when clients are stuck in a rough patch...

Sometimes when clients are unhappy and stuck in a negative communication cycle, it can be confusing as to how to be the most helpful to them.

I encourage you to observe how their behavior is metaphorically "turned away." Think about it... they are both focused on themselves, their unhappiness and/or how upset they are at the other person. When you ask them to consider how the other...

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