Meet the Expert Behind The Relationship Protocol

Hi I’m Debra Roberts, LCSW….

I developed the Relationship Protocol model after 25+ years of working with struggling relationships in my private practice. I'm a relationship expert, an experienced speaker and trainer. My simple yet practical approach offers new and experienced professionals, in all fields and work settings, a perspective for understanding relationships and a system for helping others to communicate effectively, defuse conflicts, and repair and build healthier relationships.

My book, The Relationship Protocol describes the RP model in easy to read and friendly language. The model itself is a common sense approach that can benefit all relationships.

I believe that “Healthy Communication = Healthy Relationships.”

As a licensed certified social worker with a master’s degree in social work from Virginia Commonwealth University, I have spent my career in the areas of mental health, poverty legal services, health, and youth programs. After many years in the non-profit sector, I struck out on my own, and have been in private practice for more than twenty five years.

This is where The Relationship Protocol inspiration first emerged. The communication model grew out of extensive experience working with challenging relationships.

What makes me an expert?  I've been in the trenches, working primarily with difficult, strained, and hopeless relationships for many years! My communication method, now known as the Relationship Protocol, stems from my belief that if I can teach people how to communicate better – how to talk to each other, they’ll begin to feel more comfortable and experience more positive and satisfying relationships. The model offers a practical and simple approach to healthy, relationship-oriented communication.

Over the years, the Relationship Protocol has proven to be a helpful and straightforward method for improving communication in everyday life. I’ve felt honored and humbled to witness all kinds of changes in my clients – from subtle changes, such as a simple shift in someone’s thinking about their relationship, to more obvious changes, where there is less volatility and more thoughtfulness between the individuals. I’ve found that when people have sincere intentions and they make an effort to use the tools of the model, they usually experience positive results. And to date, hundreds of professionals have been trained in the RP and they are using it successfully in their work!

Why did I write the book? The true impetus to write this book came from two sources, my colleagues and my clients. Over the years, I frequently received unsolicited, positive feedback from many well-respected colleagues. These talented clinicians expressed interest in knowing how and why my method of working with relationships was different from others in our field. They told me that I had significantly higher success rates and quicker results than other clinicians who worked with challenging relationships. At the time, I thought all professionals worked as I did, teaching people how to talk to each other to create safer and more comfortable communication. When I realized that this was something unique to my practice, it made me want to share it with others, to positively impact more people.

Throughout the years, countless numbers of clients have suggested that I spread the word about this communication method.  They’ve often said that my simple communication tools have made a world of difference in their lives and in all of their close relationships, including, business, family and friendships. And so, I decided to put the model on paper for the first time. My hope is that more people will now benefit from reading this book and using the Relationship Protocol model.